Tuesday, May 30, 2006
If you are gonna lie to me.....
at least poor some vodka in my navel and do your best to turn my frown upside down! There are certain undeniable truths about all humans, but as I get older and less wiser one of the biggest truths that I am coming to realize is that people lie. I mean, I do it. I lie to the homeless guy who asks me for money and I tell him that I don't have any to give. I lie to the telemarketer who calls my house and asks for me. I tell them that I am not home and have no idea when I will be back. I can think of certain situations that would probably cause me to lie. For the most part however, I am a firm believer in the truth. I don't believe in telling people things that are not true about me, them or what I think, feel or believe about me or them. When it comes to my words and actions impacting the life of someone else, I tread lightly. There is tremendous grace in being able to tell someone the truth when it hurts you to do it, or when you are pretty sure it's gonna hurt them too. Often the truth is harder to tell than a lie, but in the long run, lies always catch up to you and by that time the damage is done. Honesty is one of the greatest signs of respect that you can show someone. In all of my life experiences I have yet to find a way to completely dislike someone who was honest with me....no matter what else they may have done that was suspect, shady or downright evil. My wish for today is that the universe would come up with a cosmic shocking device that would zap the shit out of any person who was telling/living/selling/buying/or conjuring a lie. If my wish comes true, don't be surprised if I hunt a few of you down and ask some questions.
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I agree! I came to the realization a few weeks ago that everyone I work with lies to me. It's not necessarily on purpose, but as a buyer it happens. Production lies about when the need parts, salespeople lie about when the parts are available. Engineers lie about what parts they actually need. I know it's not the more serious lying your are talking about, but unfortunately in sometimes numbs me to the meaningful lies.
iGirl,
Enjoyed your first real post. I really like this line:
Honesty is one of the greatest signs of respect that you can show someone.
Its really true. I can think of a situation this weekend when I told my buddy Isaac that I hated shooting weddings - at his wedding, as I'm shooting photos - there's only a few other friends I would have done the same for. So I appreciate that line alot.
matt
Truth has become a subjective term - there's "my truth" and "your truth" and a no man's land in between. Somewhere along the way the basic truths of human kindness and doing what is truly right by another person-and in the process doing right by yourself-have gotten all muddled up. It's exhausting dealing with so-called adults who live their lives by truths that only serve to protect themselves and to hell with everyone else if they don't see my truth. And then there are those who tell you they want the truth, but really don't if it's not what they want to hear. The old saying, where ever it came from, is right -the truth does hurt. But I hve found that I always feel better when the ugly truth has been told. Doing what is right rarely puts you on the easy path; to borrow from Robery Frost: "I took the road less traveled by, and that has made all the difference." He was a wise man.
Sometimes I tell my wife that I don't hurt but then she holds me and says, "its ok baby, I know that you are in pain. Be honest with me." And then I let my guard down and melt with her as I cry because it feels good to be honest about the pain that sometimes brings me to my knees.
My ex lied about everything. She still does. I appreciate honesty and should be more honest even if my words will concern or hurt people.
Wow-that post really made me think! Thanks!
I'd say I always tell the truth, but that would be a lie.
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